Lip Slip

What's nice, what's a bit too harsh? Everyone has their own standard for identifying these things in speech and in writing. One person might find the word "damn" as a word used to offend, when someone else might use it to congratulate a friend.
Who do we leave in charge for assigning what it considered appropriate and what is not acceptable? No one has a completely neutral enough mind to decide this, we all lean towards a side.

It's harder than ever to actually express yourself and say what you feel without someone being offended and attacking you. You can't breathe without someone flinching at the air you waste. How can we express our freedom to believe in what we want when someone in the depths of the internet is just waiting for you to turn around so they can pounce on you and deconstruct every word you exhaled until you are left speechless and afraid to ever let your tongue slip from the safety of silence?