I  think with Gethen culture it's different when he says "There is no unconsenting sex, rape..... Genly see things different and he always asks why and tries to make his points and where the setting at it's like he never gets anything always asks why. also, i think they both confused in this story honestly I'm still confused but to guys that intimate with each other but to them, it doesn't matter because the world they live in its so much different and they don't see nothing wrong in their eyes personally and as they start getting to know eachother they start to feel eachother the attention the communtation well genly is and he start to realize I feel like the plot of this story is a fairy tail which nobody will believe and some will believe but where it takes place its unbelieveable because people going to be like.. "where this at are they on another planet/earth" the whole time its fictions not real at all and in the setting genly start to realize things and start to understand more.  - christine Walton, wave 3